When the Dust Settles

After you finish a big project or complete a special activity, it is helpful to take a minute — before you forget all about it — and think about how things went. We tend to move on to the next thing, but then we lose out on what we learned. Just a few minutes and a few notes will make the next go-round that much better.

Michael Hyatt teaches this as the KISS method in his podcast:

Then the third question: “What will you keep, improve, start, or stop doing?” We think of that as the KISS method. …We use it to mean “What will you keep? What will you improve? What will you start? What will you stop doing?” …The process is vital because it ensures that you learn from what took place before, good or bad, so you don’t repeat your mistakes and so you continue to replicate your successes.

Keep
What worked so well you want to be sure to do it again? These are your wins. Celebrate and make sure they keep happening that way.

If I could only have one dedicated bag, it would be my beach bag. Every beach trip, I am thankful I only have to pop the one bag into the truck. Everything is in it: suit, sunscreen, hat, sunglasses, paperback beach novel, towel, etc. I’m set.

Improve
What was adequate but could be better? Maybe you were trying to fill a need, but what you had didn’t quite make it. You may not have been able to do anything about it on the fly, but you can prepare to do better next time.

On our last camper road trip, we came back with several ideas. One was that the stick vacuum was great to have along, but it needed to be securely hung in the broom closet. Tripping over it or having it fall out when we opened the door was no fun.

Start
What was missing? There was a need, a hole in the plans. Brainstorm ways you could possibly fix that when you tackle this (or something like it) again. Then you can pick one that looks the most promising and give it a shot.

During an intense season of outside work, we were in an odd cycle: office work day until mid-afternoon, tackle major projects, come home after dark and gather something to eat before we collapsed. This wasn’t healthy or much fun, so we tried something new: eating breakfast early, as normal, then a good dinner mid-afternoon before heading out, and a small snack after working. It was appropriate for that time.

Stop
What totally didn’t work? Everyone disliked it, and you don’t want to go down that road again. Make a note, before you forget and beat your head against the brick wall again.

We had a can of asparagus in the pantry from the beginning of the pandemic. After serving it for dinner, it was so unappetizing we decided we would rather go without vegetables than have it again. Fresh only from now on.

A few minutes of review and planning will save so much time and energy later.

Perspective

It can be difficult to have multiple people in one place. All. The. Time. As much as we love our families, rough edges show more often in that case. If you are looking at working and schooling from home this fall, a perspective check will help.

But the steadfast love of the Lord is from everlasting to everlasting on those who fear him,
    and his righteousness to children’s children,
to those who keep his covenant and remember to do his commandments.
(Psalm 103:17-18)

Whose child are you? As children of Almighty God, we are given everlasting love. This love lasts through the longest days, farther than we can imagine. That perfect love sustains us today and forever. Bask in that a moment.

Because we are so loved, we love others. You may remember choosing to love your housemates (for a time) or your spouse (’til death do you part). Loving parents or children doesn’t have quite as abrupt a starting point, but the love is still there. We love our households deeply. It is the foundation and fuel for daily life in the home, whether any moment is draining or rosy.

Do we see it that way, or do we need to fight to remember? Do we look at the person on the other end of the couch with love, aware of how we are loved and how we love them, or with distaste, frustrated at the many clashes that came throughout the day? Are we seeing extra time together as a burden or as an opportunity to share even more love with each other every day? Are we serving or surviving? Are our meals served with love?

Better is a dinner of herbs where love is
    than a fattened ox and hatred with it. (Proverbs 15:17)

It’s not always easy, but it is always worth it.