Leaving the House Without Losing Your Mind

The title for this one came from a friend. Pretty descriptive, isn’t it? For those of us who can instantly relate to the phrase, here are some things to think about.

Be ready before you get ready to leave. Allowing enough time in your day to get ready is key here. When you do your daily planning, know what is coming and make sure you can prepare effectively. If not, rearrange or cut something out. Set yourself up for success.

On the way out the door to the ballgame is not the time to think about the snacks you volunteered to bring. If you look at your calendar before grocery shopping, you’ll have the box ready and waiting when it’s time.

It’s so tempting to put off getting gas, but it hurts to have to stop when you are running late. Keep the tank maintained, and you’ll be ready to go.

Replenish the diaper bag when you come home (and still remember that you are used all the clean clothes), and you will be ready to pick it up and walk out the door. It may not be possible the minute you walk in the door, but resetting soon, after immediate needs are met, will save you time and energy in the long run.

Keep items that need to go somewhere in a spot by the door. I have a bench  and a shelf by the front door so I see stuff that should come with me (i.e., a book to return at the library, a gift for a friend). If it’s not the very next trip, I will see it again before the trip I need it.

Strategic things in strategic places. If you always need tissues or wipes wherever you are, keep a pack in your purse, in your car, in your backpack — wherever you are regularly. The less you need to remember to bring with you, the less time you spend.

We have a bowl of individually packaged snacks on the kitchen island, ready to grab on the way out the door as needed. No need to go scrounging at the last minute. They are replenished when needed when groceries are put away, not when it’s time to leave.

Take a minute to plan. Your stops, your route, what you need, etc. Know what you are doing before you pull out of the driveway. It’s safer, for one thing, but it also will eliminate U-turns and confusion. That minute up front pays off with no frustrating minutes later. This also gives you one last chance to remember something you may need to bring with you.

Cleaning up after yourself along the way helps here too. You don’t need to stop to clean the house before you leave just to avoid coming back to a mess. Pick up messes as you go, and you can walk in and out the door with a (reasonably) clean view.

Plan for Your Weakness

If you don’t do well with pressure, help yourself and don’t procrastinate. Schedule things out early enough to avoid the deadline crunch. Take the stress off yourself and just deal with the project, not your emotions.    

If you are an introvert heading into a weekend of parties and celebrations, blocking out a little quiet time on Friday and/or Monday will allow for recovery as well as (and from!) rejoicing.    

If you have a hard time holding heavy books open, use an ereader or an audible book with thankfulness for the option.    

If you don’t naturally wake up quickly and keep hitting the snooze, move your alarm clock across the room. Making yourself walk speeds up the process and does what you need to get going.  

If you physically need a certain amount of sleep every night, don’t cram your schedule with activity and projects so it is impossible to fit those hours in. Control your commitments so that you can fully rest and fully give.

If you don’t like throwing stuff together for dinner on a whim, have meal plans done ahead of time. You will be ready to serve when it is time to eat.  


Some of these adjustments I’ve learned to do out of my own weakness. The exercise of seeing the need and finding a solution is good exercise! Planning for my weakness makes me strong. Because there is a way to succeed, and I have planned to walk that way, I’m not tripped up by the struggle.

The same is true for you. Planning for your weakness will make you strong. You can show strength in adjusting. No one on this earth is an expert in everything. Support your needs and move forward confidently. Don’t give in or give up on your calling. You can set yourself up for success instead of falling into failure.