Time with Friends

Do you feel the need to have regular time with friends but aren’t sure how to make that happen? Sometimes we tend to be ships passing in the night with friends we know and love. Solid friendships can withstand those times, but they do fail to enrich our lives during that same time.

How can we intentionally keep the blessings of friendship part of our daily lives?

  • It may help to make a list. There are some people we want to prioritize, and the process of thinking that through and writing down names can help our focus. Also, this list will work well during your personal prayer time if you would like to regularly pray for each one.
  • As usual, schedule time. Maybe you need two hours a week dedicated for coffee or playdate or writing letters. Maybe you need to set a daily reminder (or alarm) to text encouragement to someone. Make whatever fits best for you part of your calendar so that you have a reminder and time blocked to do it.
  • Reach out. Make it happen. Don’t wait for someone to invite you to go for a walk — ask away. It may be awkward to start a new friendship, but both of you will be glad and richer after you get going. Be the hero!
    Check in on friends regularly. You can stay in touch whether it’s your turn or not.
  • Love freely. Your schedules will not always mesh, but that isn’t a personal slight. We’ve all said something that landed the wrong way; give the benefit of the doubt in conversations. Share your time and grace and encouragement as freely as you would like to receive it.
  • Combine chores. Meal prep can be done together. You don’t need coffeeshop coffee to chat — laundry can be folded between sips at home too. You want to walk daily, but you can call loved ones while you walk. Get creative and use what you have.

Being intentional in this will be rewarding. Enjoy each moment!

Fair Winds

“The only people who achieve much
are those who want knowledge so badly
that they seek it while the conditions are still unfavorable.
Favorable conditions never come.” (C.S. Lewis)

Are you waiting for the perfect day to start a good habit?

Is it never the right year to address weaknesses you know you have?

Do you plan to love your neighbor next season, when you have more time?

Is your rainy day project list more fit for the tropical rainforest?

Anything worth doing or having is worth making an effort. If we are waiting for something hard to become easy, we are fooling ourselves. We will need to work for it.

There are times that are not appropriate for attempting new things or hard things, but be sure that today is truly that time. Sometimes wisdom requires scaling back or focusing on the basics for a while. That is true at times, BUT other times we need to be careful that we are not using an excuse and calling it wisdom.

If you know that you need to do it and know that it needs to be done now, I encourage you:

  • Plan what you are doing. Know your goal. Is is clear, measurable, and realistic?
  • Plan how you will do it. What exactly will it take? Map out the steps of the habit or the schedule of tasks or deadlines. Writing it down helps make it real.
  • Get the help you may need. Ask and receive. We need each other, so ask for help from friends. Tools are effective, so decide if you need some and then get them.
  • Take a deep breath and dig in. You’ve done the preparation. Now is the time to just start doing what you know you should. Put one foot in front of the other and keep walking.

The good news is — it will be worth it!

* C.S. Lewis, The Weight of Glory (San Francisco: Harper-One, 2001), 60